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My family refuses to attend my wedding, what do I do?

I`m a 21 year old student, getting ready to graduate soon. I have been in a relationship with my bf for three years now & I am certain that I want to spend the rest of my life with him; He is everything I have ever wanted. We are planning on getting married in Iowa this summer. His family will be attending, they are very accepting of him & it hurts that my parents are not the same. They refuse to come or even acknowledge that I am gay; It is unfortunate because he is an amazing guy & I at least wanted them to meet him. a part of me feels that if they just met him then they would change their mind. Unfortunately, this is probably not case.

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gaynudist 		You have, in essence, told your family that you are going to enter into relationship that will end your branch of the family bloodline. Don `t expect them to celebrate it, it is a family tragedy & is equivalent of you cutting their grandchild`s throats in front of them

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bobdilan 		I wouldn`t attend your `wedding` either

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jimmygay 		Move on. but(!) I suggest you send them an invitation, regardless if they go or not. It signals them that you still love them & that you`ll be more understanding & more patient about their opinion adjusting to your lifestyle. & even if they don`t come, move on with your life. With age & time, they will slowly begin to accept the fact that they gave birth, raised you, & that they`ll regret missing out of being part of your life. Don`t hate them for this. It`s upsetting but(!) It`s life; I hope they do accept you. & congrats on your wedding! Good luck & best wishes!

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bobdilan 		Sad, but(!) I think I would not got my child`s wedding if she was gay too

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mensexonly 		that`s sad, sad situation. I am sorry you have to deal with that. I can offer no advice, only my sympathy. but(!) more importantly is my congratualtions about your wedding; That`s a very wonderful thing, & you are very fortunate on that aspect.
Many people have had neither; no marriage & no family support; I`m not much of an optimist, but(!) believe me, you are very fortunate

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serenity 		I feel for you & wish you the best of luck!

I think once you get married, they are going to want to see you. They are going to want to visit you; Then they will need to face their homophobia. Just get married & hopefully pieces will fall into place. If not, it sounds like you are going to have very supportive inlaws.

I hope you have a wonderful wedding

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twinklover 		I know you don`t want to hear this, but(!) your parents are doing right thing. I wouldn`t go to your wedding. You are entering into sinful, unnatural relationship. a relationship that causes both of your lives to be cut short, & you can`t have kids; There is reason why God said being gay is a sin. His commandments are for our own good; His commandents are to protect you from your sinful nature; Your sinful nature will destroy you if you let it. Stop letting it; Obviously being gay is choice, because God said being gay is sin. He wouldn`t make a commandment where he knew it would be impossible for you to keep. My brother also had a friend who WAS gay, but(!) he stopped. He is a Christian & he knew that it was wrong so he stopped; He said it was hard & tough, but(!) he did it, & overcame it. & you can do the same. Just pray & ask God for help.

Also, I have question for you. - If you died right now, are you 100% SURE that you are going to Heaven? If you don`t know for SURE or if you have any questions about God, please feel free to email me. :)

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gaynudist 		I feel for you, man, I really do; Unfortunately, some people are just so stunted they can`t accept diffferences

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gaykerk 		Congratulations I wish you well. I would say invite them anyways just so that they know your thoughts were with them to celebrate your unification; However, It`s their loss & you should not worry about it too much, because now you have another family who accepts you. Just go with the flow not everyone will approve of your choices ever, & no 1 has to live your life except you. Send me an invitation I will come & support you

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mensexonly 		he is after your money, don`t marry him

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torogay 		What do you do? You politely express your regret to your family that they will not be attending, & then you marry your boyfriend. & be sure to show your appreciation to your new family--the 1 that accepts you for what you are. I offer my best wishes & congratulations to both of you.

And I offer big `thumbs down` to Govinda & rayzinsi. 2 thumbs down to Amanda 7; Bleah!

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