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Gay Sex: Should I BareBack?

Hi,

I met an older man(35) yesterday. He dresses well, speaks well & seems to be in great shape. He has asked me if I`d like to top him today, doing it bareback. Should I? He says he clean but(!) he could be lying; If he has AIDS & I top him bareback is there a risk I could receive HIV?

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gaymentop 		That would be hell no, not unless you both get tested, & share the results, is making person you met happy worth the risk that you will DIE?

Unless of course, you don`t care if you live or die, & are 1 of those deluded `bug chasers`; if that`s the case, go for it, but(!) then don`t risk infecting anyone else until you know if you are clean or not

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charliegay 		yr funeral

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charliegay 		*smacks asker* shame on you young man. bareback is fine but(!) YOU HAVE TO SEE DOCUMENTATION of his cleanliness. Anyone could say they`re clean & have something or not know they have it

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twinklover 		yes; a very big chance. Don`t do it

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gaymentop 		Even if he believes he is not AIDS positive, or carries any other infection, there is a risk to your health;

HIV can take three months to show up on tests, so test of today is out of date, & proves no safety;

Use condoms, except when in a totally monogamous relationship, where you trust someone! Keep yourself safe;

Remember, many infected people do not know their status, & could innocently infect others. It`s not worth the risk dude; Please look after yourself, you deserve love & a good health & sex life - not death sentence

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bobdilan 		If you have sex with this man you just met, please wear condom, better safe than sorry!

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twinklover 		Always, always, use a condom

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gaykerk 		No 1 can make that decision or should advise you. Only you can decide if you`re hot enough for this guy to take the chance. You are less likely to be infected if you top him than the other way around. It`s the exchange of bodily fluids that is problem & he would be on receiving end. Either way you are not totally safe.

A person can not claim he is clean unless he has not had unprotected sex for years. If he`s talking barebacking why should he care if you`re wearing a condom? He can`t tell. He may have other ideas in mind

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jimmygay 		Well. Yes, the risk is always there. If you just met this guy, don`t do bareback. You`ll never know. Better be safe than sorry. :D

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twinklover 		!. Always use condom.

2. Most men lie;

3. Even the most healthy looking person can be diseased

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jimmygay 		Don`t do it. You should never bareback unless you are 100% positive that other guy is clean, & have lived with him for a number of years; It sounds like a big lie to me

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serenity 		Don`t even think about it!

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gaynudist 		The answer is NO (don`t do it)!

Even if you are serving as the top, there is a chance that you can contract AIDS through unprotected sex. Bottoms are not only ones able to get HIV! That man might not even truly KNOW his status.

As a rule, you should NEVER have unprotected sex. & get tested every 6 months

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mensexonly 		Hi, no matter how clean looking he is or how educated he may seem, or what great shape he is in, that does not tell you what is in the blood, bareback is just not worth your life for

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bobdilan 		so he`ll feel comfortable about the issue say `in order for us to have safe & loving relationship I think we both should get mutual for our eyes only std/hiv test`
If he refuses then there is nothing to consider.
Otherwise consider,its painful,its an outgoing area only -not designed for in/out,its damaging.
So why do something that hurts someone you care for?
bESIDES THINK ABOUT IT, TAKE wHoOF

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gaymentop 		No you should not bare back. You have less of a risk if your top, but(!) It`s not that small & It`s not worth risk. You want to bareback meet a guy, get married settle down, get tested & then & only then if you trust him bare back

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twinklover 		Yes there is, but(!) there are some that like it bareback some don`t like the feel of condom, they would much rather feel the real skin & not plastic or rubber! specially during oral sex!

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serenity 		Yes, there is a risk that you could contract HIV. You should never bareback with anyone, period, regardless of what he tells you. It is not worth the risk for 1 night of pleasure. If you do decide to bareback & you do contract HIV, it will be a decision that you will regret for the rest of your life. Let`s say that you do become HIV+. What are the implications for rest of your sex-life? What if you transmit it to someone else? It`s not worth having that weighing your conscience down. It is better to protect yourself & your future partners by wearing condom & engaging in `safer-sex` practices.

Keep in mind that by bare-backing you are not only at risk of contracting HIV. You can acquire hepatitis, gonorrhea, chlamydia, herpes, chancroid, syphilis, human papilloma virus, Epstein Barr Virus, Cytomegalovirus, & host of other sexually transmitted diseases & afflictions;

Keep in mind that if he`s asking YOU to bareback, he has also asked other people to do so. You haven`t been ONLY ONE, nor will you be the last; If he is not responsible enough to protect himself, then you should take the initiative, be responisble for YOU, & protect yourself.

IT IS NEVER WORTH RISK! PROTECT YOURSELF!

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mensexonly 		ABSOLUTELY POSITIVELY NOT!

Please, please, please do not ever bareback with someone you have just met. That should only be reserved for partner that you have had a monogamous relationship with for at least 6 months & after you have both been tested;

He is 35 years old - how many other guys must he have barebacked with? Who knows WHAT kind of diseases he has! He could have HIV & be on medication! Not to mention herpes, syphilys, chlamidia & others;

With regard to anal sex, both partners are at risk of infection; Condoms must be worn to protect your self; If straight men get HIV from women, why shouldn`t a top guy get HIV from bare backing an infected bottom?

When ever you have oral or anal sex with new person, you should ALWAYS have a condom on

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