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Im afraid of being gay?

I`m 20 years old & can`t keep a decent relationship with a girl going, I fell for a girl when I was 17 & she completly destroyed me & changed my opinion on women forever; I`m still virgin & blame it on her because she led me on & was busy lossing her virginity with guy who would later leave her to be gay. Ironic. but(!) I can`t stand women now, I`m so sick of the modern dating game that involves me asking women out only to seem boring or 1 minded on sex that they out right reject me. I`ve tried to lower my standards but(!) I have a lot of ambition & plan on being very important 1 day & screwing every high school girl who likes me isn`t for me, well gay guys have been hittin on me lot in the past two years & I`ve pushed them out of my life because I don`t like the idea. Well when I`m in shower(my alone time)I sometimes think about sex with another man, not a specific man & so far It`s just a type of man, ones who look like achilles in troy, but(!) my alone time has really become a chore, I tried to stop four days ago because It`s the same thing over & over & It`s not like It`s helping me with establishing a relationship, but(!) tonight I decided to do it & I imagined me sucking guy, I even used small shampoo bottle & condum, then tried to put it in me, it hurt so I quit, but(!) idea of this strong guy is in my mind but(!) I really don`t want to be gay! I honestly just want to be loved by my soul mate who was ment for me, women I can marry & be happy with but(!) I`m so lonely & my friends live so far away I just don`t know how long I can go before seeking out a guy like this one, It`s not an obssession but(!) It`s my limits; Btw I`m supposibly cute/hot, 6ft, 140 pounds, amazing blue eyes, cool accent & I`m extremly cut, most girls find me attractive but(!) It`s my mind that shells up around them & It`s retarded I know but(!) It`s built into me now. What do I do? My family is worried about me & they keep pressuring me to find woman & It`s hard to do that because I hate dating game & am tired of rejection, & with these gay ideas coming into my head I feel I`m losing myself, I`m finding myself depressed & alone more & more everyday, I use to think suicide would send You directly to hell, well upon investigating it more, suicide shouldn`t send me to hell, I`m believer in jesus & want to go to heaven but(!) I`m losing faith that he even has power we make him out to have, why am I forced to live through this life completly alone. I really need real answers, not some bs the perfect 1 hasn`t showed up yet or he has a plan, cuz that plan may be suicide for me & I don`t want to die, I want to marry, have good job after college & buy boat to travel the world 1 day, but(!) not by myself. & with these gay thoughts I`m tempted to try gay sex, something I may regret forever;

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gaymentop 		well if I were you then I would go to a site for single people & say that your desperate for a women!

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twinklover 		WELCOME TO LAND OF LGBT. WHERE WE PLAY WITH SNAKES & KITTENS. COME & JOIN US. MUHAHAHHAHAHA

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jimmygay 		Well, when it comes to finding that `perfect` woman, that can be a real pain in ass. I`ve never tried it, but(!) may be a site like eHarmony would speed up process.

As for the gay sex. well, as a virgin, you never have had either sides; Having sex with a guy isn`t the most regrettable thing in the world (drunkedly getting bad tattoo seems worse in my mind). If you definitely didn`t like it, then you know that you just definitely didn` like it. & once you have sex with a girl, too, then you can really compare & contrast the 2 situations.

The worst enemy for you right now is yourself. All of this speculating & contemplating without action is going to rot your mind & make suicide more appealing; If rather you decide to take action, to really get down to the nitty gritty & investigate your sexual preferences. If you find that you truly are gay, then don`t worry.

Whether Jesus has a plan for you or not, know that he still loves you regardless.

But don`t go assuming that you`re gay right now. Really test your libido, find out what truly interests you, & you will find your answer

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gaymentop 		just keep trying, eventually you`ll get better at it.

watch some james bond movies, cruel intentions, thank you for smoking. try to mimic the people in these movies;

dont be gay; It`s gay

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gaynudist 		Wow long question, why would you be this or that like forever if you did this or that ? Hang loose man, you could still be straight, gay bisexual idk; sux to have bad girlfriend early on. Can`t hate all men cuz yer Dad had b. o; ? Jesus was bisexual & Mary Magdalene was hotter than hot; I was raised Lutheran & I was curious, check around; & get AWAY from those religious fools who know exactly how everyone is supposed to behave; they are psycho-social criminals intent on sucking out yer own self respect forever. I hate them all

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bobdilan 		You can fall 7 times, but(!) it`s all about getting up that 8th time that makes a difference. Hence, right when your ready to give up after so many tries, it`s about that 1 last try that makes the difference. No matter what happens, your ALWAYS in control of your own life. Sorry, if this is an answer your trying to avoid, but(!) just thought I should put that out there. Figure out what`s really wrong (you can`t blame it on everyone else) learn from it, & try again. & if your really struggling, professional help wouldn`t hurt

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twinklover 		I`m 17 & a female who`s bisexual this guy just turned me off for guys sooo I totally know how you feel & yes I do believe in god. I just wannah say GO FOR IT! or say your bisexual; N expirement with guys & it`ll come! :)

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gaykerk 		very simple things:
don`t go for it. being gay is just effed up(its even common sense seriously)
and those temptations always get it off your mind immediately; you`ve been screwed over by a girl & I guess we;ve all experienced that. my first cheated on me & I`ve just been waiting since. you`re only 20 years old & I guess all I can say is to not worry & just wait for that woman. & sometimes you go through some things so God can mold you & turn you into who he designed you to be. especially since you have a dream of traveling the world someday. (mine is becoming famous & changing music industry & then traveling around the world) & for the suicide part. there just isn`t any excuse. God blesses us so much that we shouldn`t have any excuse; everything he does is for our benefit no matter how things may seem on the outside. romans 8:28 & philippianis 4:4-8; you should meditate & pray on that because that`ll help you =] just have faith in His plans for you. & in His name just rebuke those thoughts & tell them to get out because you DO have the authority in you anyways that is the Holy Spirit

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jimmygay 		Well, don`t let 1 girl get you down, even if she was a bitch who tore your heart out, stomped on it, picked it back up, through into dog poop & then ran it over with a steam roller.

Also, are you sure it`s her fault you are virgin? Did you ever try to initiate sex with her? Because it takes 2 to dance a straight tango, & if you don`t outreach your hand there won`t be any dancing; `It`s really easy to be uptight/virgin when you`re not attracted; `

To be honest, you sound bisexual to me.

About your anal experience, I think you tried something tad too big for your first time; Try a well-lubed finger first, remember, prostate is what is pleasurable for a guy in anal & it`s really only about 1-2 inches up there. Also, may be you might not like, may be you are more of giver than receiver;

Also, if you don`t like common dating scene, find a girl who doesn`t like it either because I know a lot of people find modern day dating game stupid & boring; I don`t like it. I like guy who isn`t all lovey-dovey in public. That`s annoying;

I think you should try experimenting with guys to see if you like it.

Also, don`t let life get so repetitive, go out with friends; Hell, go to a gaybar with 1 or two.

Don`t let being gay/bi be bad thing. It`s just another attribute.
Good luck;

Edit: & of course you think Achilles is hot, he was played by Brad Pitt, duh! I like him with preferably shorter hair though

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gopbol 		You don`t become gay because a woman screwed you over.
You are gay because you want to be with men. That doesn`t sound like you;
How about joining an activity or organization or club (etc) that interests you. YOu will meet other people who will have similar interests. Then start talking to other members. There is no need to jump into anything

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